Ah, breasts. Whether they’re big or small, pointy, hard or soft and wobbly, most guys you’d dare to ask would say that they’re big fans of these wonderful body parts. Breasts, also called boobs, are a highly sensitive and erogenous area on women’s bodies. Heck, some women claim they’ve orgasmed solely from breast play! So why don’t we know more about it, huh?!
Well, I set out to do the job that must be done – to write about the wonders of breast play is serious business and I want to be up to the task 100%!
So what can you expect from me here? I will talk about why breasts are such an important erogenous zone, as well as techniques on how to stimulate them properly for maximum pleasure! Who knows, maybe you’ll get good enough to give your woman a nipple orgasm!
Why are breasts and nipples such a potent erogenous zone in women?
The key is folks, again in the brain regions connected with pleasure. According to a study done on nipple stimulation, it turns out that sensations caused to the nipples and the breast region travel back to the brain, to the same part where sensations from the clitoris, the vagina, and the cervix come as well.
Basically, stimulation to the nipples and/or breasts are akin to stimulations of the genital area. Isn’t that fascinating?!
In any event, breasts are one of the most powerful erogenous zones in the female body.
According to another study, 62% of women aged between 20-29, 56% of women aged 30-39, 64% of those aged 40-49, and 73% of them aged 50-61 reported breasts or nipples as their main erogenous zone. The clit, however, always took first place, so keep that in mind as well, fellas. 🙂
A word of advice
As we saw from the data above, a lot of women do like to have their breasts stimulated during sex and foreplay. However, that’s not all of them. So, if you haven’t already talked about this, I suggest you do it before engaging in breast play.
Alternatively, you can start by playing with her breasts very lightly during foreplay and notice how she reacts to it. If she seems like she doesn’t want you to continue – takes your hand off or moves her position or makes you try something else – then don’t push it. Try talking to her about it once you’ve finished having sex. The main thing is not to make her do something she doesn’t enjoy.
Also, different women like different kinds of breast play, but I’ll talk more about it in the following sections.
What You Need to Know Before Setting Out for Breast Play
Now, before we get to the precise techniques you can use to make your lady come like the queen that she is, you will need to know a couple of things first about her body and the breasts themselves.
Let’s take a brief look at it.
Know a Thing or Two About Anatomy
Now, breasts are highly sensitive areas composed of several parts, which serve different functions.
Obviously, I can’t talk about every part of the breast here, nor is it necessary. It’s good to know the parts that’ll make your lady scream with pleasure. And this is what the nipple area is for. The nipple, along with the areola is the skin of the breast.
The areola is a pigmented area around the nipple in the form of a dark(er) circle. This can be different in different women. Some have larger areolas, some smaller and barely visible. Some are much darker than the rest of the skin, and some are only slightly.
The nipple is the raised part that is super sensitive to touch – it’s also where the milk for breastfeeding comes from.
There are lots of sensitive nerve endings beneath the nipple and areola area, which is the main reason why it can be such a potent erogenous zone.
The breasts are basically a mix of fatty tissue, nerves and blood vessels, some muscle, and lymph nodes. An interesting fact about them is that all of them have pretty much the same number of nerve endings, no matter how big or small they are. However, bigger breasts may be a little less sensitive than small ones, probably because the nerve responsible for transmitting sensations from the nipple to the brain is more stretched.
Typically, the nipple is the most sensitive part of the breast, although the whole breast is considered an erogenous zone, and kissing, licking, nibbling on other parts of it besides the nipple can also be very pleasurable for women.
How to Play With Your Partner’s Breasts
Okay, there’s no one single way to play with your wife’s boobies, but here I’m going to give you the basics and several possible scenarios you can use to give her as much pleasure as possible.
Not all women like to be touched the same way – I hope you know that by now. The same goes for their boobs, as you may have already guessed.
So let’s see how you can initiate breast play without making it uncomfortable for your wife, and how you can see whether she enjoys it or not!
Start slow and include breast play as part of foreplay
Foreplay is a great way to arouse your partner, especially if you’re not currently on the same level of arousal. I suggest you include foreplay in your sex life as often as possible. And breast play can definitely be a part of it! Consider it as – boob foreplay.
If it’s your first time playing with your partner’s breasts, start slow.
What do I mean by this?
I mean you start kissing her all over – her mouth, her neck, her earlobes, her shoulders, and then you slide down to her breasts, then to the stomach and her pelvic area and genitals… and then get back to the top and stop at the breasts.
Pay close attention to see whether your wife likes breast play at all
I may seem boring repeating this several times throughout the article, but consent is super important. Even in marriages and long-term relationships, people forget that it’s still a thing and that if they’re with someone for a long time, it doesn’t mean that either of you is bound to do everything the other wants.
So pay attention in which ways your partner likes her boobs to be touched during sex, or whether she likes them to be touched at all.
Now let’s take a look at the ways you can touch your wife’s breasts!
1. Stimulate the surrounding area before you set out to the most sensitive site – the nipples
Start with light kisses to the whole breast. Include a bit of licking as well, and continue doing it if you notice your wife is fond of it, of course.
Then continue towards the nipple. You can either lick it, kiss it, or suck on it, or you can mix it up and do it all interchangeably. And, of course, you can bite it if your lady is a fan of biting and finds it pleasurable.
Don’t forget the other breast as well. While you’re stimulating one breast with your mouth, stimulate the other with your hand and try to mimic the same movements and type of touch.
You can also try and tease your partner by going all over her boob but avoiding the nipple for as long as you can. Focus on the areola instead, which sometimes can be even more sensitive than the nipple.
Look at it as a form of boob play edging!
2. Stimulate her breasts with your hands and fingers
Using only your hands is also an option here. Start by gently sliding your arm across her body, from her neck to her hips and genital area, and then get back to the boobs.
Massage them very gently with your hands, move your fingers over her nipples.
You can also pinch them, twist them a bit or gently move them in between your index and middle finger – but do this very gently, at least in the beginning. If your wife wants rougher breast play, then it’s ok to go harder on them.
3. Stimulate the clitoris while you’re stimulating her breasts
The great thing about boob foreplay is that you can pair it with other activities, like for example, fingering, aka setting the clit on fire while you’re also pampering her boobs!
This can be very hot and very arousing for women since both are highly erogenous zones – the breasts probably coming second best after the all-time champion, the clitoris. So you can imagine how it must feel stimulating both at once!
While you’re kissing or sucking on her breasts and nipples, you can also use your other hand to work on her clit. If you wanna get better at fingering and other vulva and vagina related stimulation, check out my article on the female orgasm where I also give lots of practical tips!
Alternately, if your hands are long enough, you can give your wife oral sex and touch her boobs simultaneously.
4. Stimulate the breasts during sex
Who says you can’t work on her boobs while you’re having intercourse? If she’s into it, nothing’s stopping you my friend!
Here, again, you can do all sorts of things to them. Squeeze them, massage them, lick them, suck on them, and kiss them – that is, if you can manage in all that commotion. 🙂
5. Nipple orgasms
There’s no magic formula for making your lady achieve a nipple orgasm. As with any orgasm, consistency is key here, as is a gradual increase of intensity. But it definitely differs from woman to woman, so you have to experiment in order to get the right formula.
Use Sex Toys
I’d say there probably are sex toys for every part of our bodies and nipples aren’t an exception.
Have you ever heard of nipple clamps? Well, let me introduce the two of you then!
Nipple clamps roughly look like an open necklace with clamps on each end. But this is one variety – you can also find separate clamps that can go on each boob and nipple without necessarily being connected.
There are also nipple clamps that have a clit clamp attached to it, which can also be a very, very good idea to introduce in the bedroom.
But this is not all. There’s plenty more where that came from! There’s also a nipple clamp that’s based on suction – called very aptly “nipple suckers”. They work by producing vacuum and promoting blood flow to the nipples and act as your mouth, basically, by latching onto them.
And there are vibrating ones if you wanna play it that way. Alternately, you and your wife can use a vibrator on them as well.
Or, you can just use the plain old feather teaser or a whip. So many options folks, have it a go with some of them!
Lube should become a staple both during foreplay and during actual intercourse. It can make sex play much more smooth – if you know what I mean.
The tissue from which the nipples are made is a very gentle tissue and it’s pretty easy to chafe, especially if you go at them for a longer amount of time, or if there’s a bra or a shirt in between.
And lube isn’t only for the genitals. It can be used practically anywhere on the body, making it all wet and smooth adding extra sexiness to the whole sex play.
There are all kinds of lubes: water-based, silicone-based, oil-based lubes. There are even CBD oil-infused lubes, like the Spark spray, for example. Spark is a great way to get your juices flowing if you want to get that little extra out of sex, so I encourage you to give it a shot!
Introduce Other Substances During Breast Play
Do you want to amp up the experience of breast play with a little extra touch? Well then bring food, water or some other type of liquid into the matter!
I mean the first thing that comes to my mind is, of course, ice cubes. Yeah, it’s a bit of a cliche but it works wonders (which is why it’s such an old favorite). Just imagine how she might feel with the cold sensation of the cube across her chest and her stomach, you sliding it with your mouth or fingers, and licking the water off her body… Good, yeah?
Other types of food work too. Like, for example, you can put Nutella or whipped cream (another cliche, I know) on her nipples and then lick it and suck it off from them! Or, you can put some fruit, like strawberries, which for me is a very sexy fruit.
Or, you know, just put lube if you or she don’t wanna get all messed up.
What Real People Have to Say About It
A special article on nipple orgasms in the Cosmopolitan asked a couple of women who claim they regularly have nipple orgasms, whether there’s a special type of breast or nipple stimulation that works best for them:
“Woman A: I find that it’s better if there’s fabric between my fingers and my nipples, but I’m not sure why it just works easier. Be careful though or you can get chafing doing that too much. Nips are sensitive! Be gentle with yourself.
Woman B: Depending on my mood and how sensitive I’m feeling, either firm pinching or a sort of massaging of the nipple area.
Woman C: It’s hard to describe. I can’t make myself orgasm through stimulating my own breasts. Generally, incredibly soft touches that progress toward the nipples are most successful.”
The Do’s and Don’ts of Breast Play
While breast play means a lot of things, as we saw above, and there isn’t one way to play with your partner’s boobs, there are still some things you need to be mindful about, what you should and shouldn’t do if you’re new to the game.
Don’t Overdo It
Don’t make breast play last too long, is basically what I’m trying to say.
Breast play is super fun and sexy for both parties. And when it’s accompanied by other activities, maybe even more so.
But breast play shouldn’t last too long. Otherwise, you risk inducing boredom and frustration in your partner, and you’re bound to kill the mood.
Now, if you’re trying to get her to a nipple orgasm, it’s a bit different. This is because sometimes it takes longer for women to come solely from nipple stimulation and it means you’ll have to go at it for quite some time.
Be Careful With the Biting
Biting during sex and foreplay can be very arousing, there’s no doubt about it. But, it’s not for everybody since it includes a certain amount of pain as well.
So what I’m trying to say is to watch your teeth the next time you set out to indulge your wife with a little breast play. If you’re unsure whether she likes her nipples or other parts of the breast being bitten, simply ask her.
Or try to nibble at them during sex, but very gently! See how she reacts and don’t get carried away immediately. If you notice she’s enjoying it, gradually increase the strength of the bite or just ask her something like “You want me to go harder?”, or “Want me to bite more?”
The same goes if you set out to pull their nipple or make hickeys all over her breasts!
Don’t Immediately Honk ‘Em, Knead ‘Em, Slap ‘Em or Juggle ‘Em
I’m not saying this is a forbidden activity, I’m just saying if you’re new to the breast play game don’t jump on your partner’s boobs like you’re a teenager.
Some women won’t have anything against it. Some of them will love it, for sure. But, since breasts are so sensitive, you gotta be more careful first and “assess the situation”, if you know what I mean.
When it comes to breast play, it’s best to start slow and be gentle in your moves, until you get a green light to go rougher. You can do this by trying different intensities (slowly!) and movements and asking your wife openly about whether she enjoys it or not.
And what about motorboating?
Well, motorboating definitely falls in this category. What is motorboating, some of you will ask? According to Urban Dictionary, the internet’s number one source for English slang words, “motorboating” is “the activity of putting one’s face between a woman’s breasts, and rocking turning one’s head rapidly from side to side while making a noise like a motorboat.”
I mean, I bet 90% of guys reading this have thought about this scenario at least once in their sex fantasies… Even if they don’t know the official term.
Truth is, you can surely do it as long as your wife enjoys it or doesn’t mind. And the same goes for putting your penis in between her boobs. Just make sure to put on some lube so the skin between the breasts and the skin on your penis doesn’t get chafed. Also, for extra pleasure, try to push the boobs together so it’s tighter for the penis – again if it’s okay with your wife and she’s comfortable with it.
It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but some couples do enjoy it and there’s nothing to be ashamed of if you’re one of them!
All Breasts are Different – Don’t Approach them Like They Aren’t
If you’ve played the breast game with other women before, it doesn’t mean your current partner will like what you do by default.
Even though they’re generally considered a highly erogenous zone for most women out there, breasts are also super sensitive, and for some women, it might just be too much.
Small breasts especially can be rather sensitive, which means oftentimes you gotta be more gentle with them and less aggressive (at least till you know what your lady likes).
Larger breasts, as we saw earlier in this article, tend to be less sensitive (although this doesn’t mean they all are like that). So, maybe if your previous partner had more sensitive boobs, and now your current partner has ones that are less so, and you apply the same movements and intensities – well, you might just fall short.
Which is why it’s so important to adjust the game to the player you’re with.
There are Certain Times of the Month When Boobs Just Get Too Sensitive
Yeah, it’s the time just before women get their periods. Mostly because of hormonal changes, some women may experience pain and increased sensitivity upon touch in their breasts.
This usually happens from five to two or three days before their period, but sometimes it may even happen 10 days before (mostly due to hormonal imbalance or PDD – premenstrual dysphoric disorder).
So when you both get in the sack, make sure to have that in mind as well and be extra careful.
Well, folks, I think I want to finish my guide on breast play and let you do the work yourselves from here on.
As you already know by now, breasts are very gentle body parts and they should be treated with care and attention. Also, every woman feels differently about them – some want you to do almost anything to them, and some just find it too painful to the touch.
So, as with any form of sex play, whether it’s intercourse or foreplay, the key thing is to communicate and share your preferences and dislikes. Without it, there won’t be any good sex life, or intimacy and trust between romantic partners, and what’s a relationship without them?